Have I Been Abused?

Domestic violence is a pattern of control that one person exercises over another. it is not limited to physical violence, but also includes verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and economic abuse.


If the following list applies to you, call the 24- hour Domestic Violence Hotline at (309) 827-7070.



Has your partner done any of these things to you?

  • Pushed or shoved you
  • Held you to keep you from leaving
  • Slapped or bit you
  • Kicked or choked you
  • Hit or punched you
  • Thrown objects at you
  • Locked you out of the house
  • Abandoned you in dangerous places
  • Subjected you to reckless driving
  • Twisted your arm
  • Threatened to hurt you with a weapon
  • Tripped you
  • Pulled your arm
  • Banged your head against the wall
  • Treated women as sex objects
  • Tied you down
  • Criticized you sexually
  • Told you about his/her affairs
  • Withheld sex and affection
  • Insisted upon uncomfortable touching
  • Had affairs with other women/men
  • Forced particular unwanted sexual acts
  • Forced sex after beating
  • Called you names
  • Ignored your feelings
  • Blamed you for the violence
  • Ridiculed or insulted women as a group
  • Humiliated you in public or private
  • Refused to socialize with you
  • Abused pets to hurt you
  • Took away your car keys or money
  • Dampened your enthusiasm
  • Controlled all the money
  • Not allow you to make any decisions
  • Intimidated or belittled you
  • Showed sarcasm towards you
  • Rejected you
  • Refused to talk or listen to you
  • Insulted you
  • Intercepted your mail or phone calls
  • Made you upset or nervous about being a few minutes late
  • Criticized you for the way you raise your children
  • Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave
  • Threatened to hurt you or your family
  • Punished or deprived the children when he/she was angry with you
  • Threatened to kidnap children if you left him/her
  • Harassed you about affairs he/she imagined you are having
  • Manipulated you with lies and contradictions
  • Demeaned or put you down by saying you couldn’t manage without masculine help
  • Kept your from working, controlled your money, or made all decisions about finances
  • Withheld approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment
  • Continually criticized you, called you names or shouted at you
  • Insulted or drove away your family and friends
  • Forced sex when you were sick or it was dangerous to your health
  • Controlled you with his/her jealousy or possessiveness
  • Publicly showed interest in other women/men
  • Told anti-women jokes or made demeaning remarks about women
  • Been jealously angry; assuming you would have sex with any available person
  • Insisted that you dress in a more sexual way than you wanted
  • Called you sexist names like “whore” or “frigid”

National Domestic Violence Hotline/Linea Nacional Sobre La Violencia Domestica:

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)


TTY For The Deaf/TTY para los Sordos: 1-800-787-3224